I’ve gotten into Magic: the Gathering lately and really like the game. I go to FNM’s and do okay. My friends and I like to hang out during the week and play at my house. My girlfriend watches and knows a little bit about the game and the cards but refuses to play with us or go to FNM. I would like her to at least start playing with us and perhaps go to FNM. What can I do to convince her the game is fun and she should start playing with us?
I can tell you that when my boyfriend first started playing Magic: the Gathering, I thought it was just a game, a phase he was into and it soon was going to pass. He was only playing with his roommate at their place and I didn’t see any point in joining. He was becoming increasingly more interested in the game and began going to FNM, which means a lonely Friday night for his lady. Thus began my interest in joining him in learning about the game! It took about three months of my boyfriend asking me to play and me refusing. Since I saw his passion in the game I figure I should at least learn what the game was about since I might be watching it a lot if he continued to play it.
This brings me to point number one: Gently ask your girlfriend to play and don’t pressure her if she doesn’t want to. It takes time and no one likes to feel forced into something. If she sees you having fun then she will want to know more about it. Encourage her to watch a game. Show her some art on the cards and some of the fun creatures[like angels-what she is of course ] This will score some points and interest in the game. Now she’s interested, but you have to start everything for her. You can’t expect her to build her own deck and just play out right with you guys.
So, step two: Find her interests and build her a deck she can call her own. This way, if you want her to play she’ll have her own deck to play with. Make sure it is creature based with other spells that don’t have very many decisions[i.e. no Cryptic Commands or wordy cards-girls don’t want to have to read a lot to try and figure something out they are doing for you]. Be patient when playing with her as she learns the game. Nothing will turn her away more than a grouchy partner so don’t get mad at her. Make it light, fun and uncomplicated. All the little rules and combat tricks can come later. Oh, and make a deck that will be fun to play against her. It won’t be any fun if she’s play mono green big creatures if you are playing Faeries or Five Color Control. Think about her first. Also, you should probably let her win a game or two! She won’t know why she won if she reads the cards in your hand at the end of the game and if she does find out that you let her win she’ll think it was sweet of you. But make sure you win too. And tell her the right plays even if it means you may lose a creature or two.
Alright, your girlfriend plays at home with you but she still doesn’t see the point of going to and FNM to play or she doesn’t get why you go or why you go to tournaments. Step three: Bring her to an FNM. Now, what this means is she should have played her deck and know every card in it. The deck should have been tweaked to include better spells and hopefully she is legitimately beating you by now at home. Make sure she knows she may not win that many rounds but winning just one or two games the entire night should be enough to get her interested in building a better deck and wanting to come back and win some more. Also, make it a date night. Go out to dinner first, FNM, then ice cream afterwords. Most females will do what you want if we know you have put time, effort, and thought into it. My first FNM my record was 1-8. I beat a 15 year old named Pedro and it was the best feeling in the world. I was so happy to bring that kid down a notch that I wanted to make my deck better and come back and beat him again. That night was a little intimidating being in a room full of guys but I’m sure your play group is mostly guys anyways so she probably knows what to expect going into it. The most important thing to remember on her first FNM night is to NOT LEAVE HER ALONE!! Make sure after every match you go right to her, ask how she did, don’t necessarily brag or be down about how you did[at this point she doesn’t care, sorry] and make sure to throw a big celebration party if she wins a game and especially if she wins a match. Introduce her to some of your friends and make her feel welcome. After a successful night she should be talking to you about building a deck that she’ll want to take back next week that’s going to beat the 15 year old kid [mental fist pump for you-she’s in]. Now, you should help build her a deck that’s going to win because if she keeps playing a deck that sucks, she’s out of there and will go shopping on Friday nights instead of spending it with you. This should also be something that you tell her at the end of the night, “I loved spending time with you tonight. It means a lot to me that you share in my interests and seeing you beat that guy was the highlight of my night. Thanks for coming. My friends liked meeting you too. I heard some of the guys say that you looked hot, which you always do.” She’ll be smitten.
I hope this helps Greg. Just make the game fun for the both of you and once she sees why you go to the FNM she’ll want to go too. Be patient and make sure to compliment her all the way, on winning, good playing, and her stellar outfit.
Hope this helped,
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